So, for those of you who might not know, this past summer I chopped all of my hair off.
You can read about that day here.
Now, months later and ZERO regrets, I want to tell you why I love the choice I made so much. I want to tell you what I’ve learned about hair and how I now relate it to myself and the world.
It’s just hair. BUT hair is important in so many ways… culturally, historically, gender(ly) and confidence(ly). (wasn’t sure how to make that sentence work, but you get the point.)
Women curl their hair and buy products and spend time, precious time, on their hair to make it shiny and bouncy and full-bodied and touchable. Some women can grow out their hair, some can’t make it past their shoulders. Sometimes people lose their hair. Sometimes guys grow out their hair. Sometimes people shave their heads.
If you think about it, we all say something with our appearance each day and a huge part of that has to do with hair. Millions of tiny little things growing out of our heads. Kinda weird!
I have no problem with anyone who spends money on hair, after all, I do it, too. I also have NO problem with people who spend an hour doing their hair each day. It’s their time, not mine!
However, here we go, and I’ll tell you why I love this short ‘do so much and I might even convince you to chop all of your hair off.
One cool thing about short hair has to do with TIME. I save so much time. I’ve mentioned on Hey Lou how time is something I prefer not to waste. I want to do things on my own time, I hate waiting around… I don’t like really long daily processes. I was sick of blow drying my hair and/or waiting for it to air dry. I was sick of having to curl it to feel “fancy.” I was tired of choosing between a ponytail, bun, or down.
Job interview, church, grocery store, working out, meeting a friend for coffee… sweat pants… a dress….. SAME HAIR!!! (some girls probably want the ability to change it up. guess I’m not one of them…)
I no longer dread taking a shower. Because washing my hair meant taking all that time to do it. And I had to use so much shampoo and conditioner for my hair to feel okay. It took so long to get all of the product out, too. Now I get my hair wet and I actually wash it with a product maybe once a week. It’s the best!!!
CHEAPER hair cuts!!!!! I get the “men’s price,” which is up to ten dollars cheaper. Also, in the hair cutting world….
No more asking scary and intimidating women with awesome hair where they got it done!!! Nope. Instead, I ask the 20 year old guy I work with where he gets his hair cut. I like his style. Turns out, it’s a very well priced ($ rather than $$$) barber shop. I’m going there this week! To a barber shop!! Isn’t that cool?!
I gave my hair to Locks of Love. You can always donate. If your hair is long enough you can donate without a pixie cut. But why not just go all out? My mom won her battle with breast cancer and although she didn’t lose any hair, I still felt a new connection with her and the women who feel a painful loss when their hair falls out. I want to be a part of the world that says, you are beautiful either way.
You can have the same hair cut as your super cute nephew, and he’ll think it’s silly. :) When I let it grow a little and do “the flip” in the front, my four year old nephew and I have literally, the exact same hair.
It feels damn good. No more knots!!! No more tangles!!! No more hair getting stuck in your lip gloss!! No more painful follicles after having a pontytail in all day long!!! The wind reaches your neck, ears, forehead…. that’s freeing. It really is.
You might stop caring so much about what you look like. It’s actually shocking how much short hair has affected this. I used to stress way more about my appearance. I would worry how my hair looked, how my makeup looked with the hair style I chose, the shirt I wore and whether it went with the bun I just placed on the top of my head. I also compared my looks to others. It’s not like having less than an inch of hair is magical, but in a way, it’s sort of magical. It’s like my hair is a nonentity. I don’t think much about it and I can’t change it… it will not grow back overnight, so… there’s nothing to worry about. The choice is made. It is how it is. Comparing won’t get me anywhere. And maybe because of this and maybe because I like how I look more than ever, I just don’t do the comparing anymore.
And that’s why cutting my hair was so liberating. I said, “The only person who needs to like my hair is me.” That’s a liberating feeling. I have no other umm… assets, when it comes to people looking elsewhere other than at my face. Instead of being chesty or having some other feminine quality, I had pretty good long hair. I don’t want to sound conceited, I don’t think people just loved my hair so much and looked past the rest of me, but now I know for sure that people are seeing ME… MELINDA… and my face will not be covered by my hair. I wore it down most of the time and that was my comfort zone. Maybe I didn’t like how I looked that day so I could “hide” behind my messy hair. No longer. It has forced me OUT of my comfort zone. It’s liberated me from being just a girl with long hair.
Does that make sense? It did in my head
I felt a new energy. I think that since hair has been with us throughout the years and was there for experiences, good and bad, it holds a lot of that negative and positive energy. Might sound hokey, but I believe in things like that. When it was chopped off a huge burden was lifted off of me and all of the bad things that had happened were thrown away with the hair that was swept up off the parlor floor.
The amount of time I’ve spent missing my hair: zero minutes. This is entirely true. I got the chop and never looked back. It’s a non issue. I focus my energy on other things, I ‘spose.
Plus, it WILL grow back, if I ever decide to grow it back, which I doubt I will. Case in point:
my sister once had a pixie.
look at us now!
At the end of the day, hair is a powerful thing and it’s hard to explain quite why.
It was powerful enough to put me in a new situation. I stopped hiding behind the hair, I stopped hiding behind other things in my life. I can spend more time doing the things I love and going for my goals and less time getting ready in the morning or obsessing over how I styled the stuff on my head. I’ve had the opportunity to look past the appearance I was sooooooo comfortable with and step into a new one… and it was a lot easier than I thought it would be.
I surprised myself.
I never thought I’d write a blog like this one, today.
It sounds like I had this big decision and a lot of people have told me how gutsy cutting all that hair off was. But the point (you’ll read about if you read the blog, The Chop) is…. I woke up one day and I did it. I’m finally comfortable with myself and how I look and it has nothing to do with something that I depended on for most of my life. That feels good. It’s mostly a subconscious thing…truly. I don’t think about it that often, but it’s been fun to see the positive reactions of those around me. I’ve been thinking about writing this blog for a while, especially once I asked a boy for the hair tips and I just had to chuckle at myself.
Life is good, without or without much hair.
I’ve been thinking about buzzing it lately. (follow me on Pinterest and you’ll see what I’m loving!) It grows back too quickly, what have I got to lose?
I’ll let you know. :)
Love, Happy Pixie Lou
December 1, 2013 at 11:47 AM
Your hair is so-o-o pretty, long or short. I found your post while searching blogs for pixie haircut ideas. My hair is a couple inches past my shoulders (usually in a ponytail) with long swoop bangs. My hair was really short when I met my husband, but I grew it long about 2 years ago just for a change. I like the look of long hair, but REALLY MISS the convenience of short hair; and have kept hinting that it’s gonna get chopped. The long hair simply takes way too much time, and I want it off my face and neck. I’m in my friend’s wedding party in April so I’m keeping it long until then. But I told my stylist we’re going short right after that. I really like your hair in the picture with your sister. That’s the pixie I can’t wait to get !
December 1, 2013 at 9:54 PM
Aw, that’s so exciting!!! Yes…. it’s nice to have it off the neck, especially!! You’ll look lovely for the wedding (even if you do it before then) and it’s fun to have something – a definite timeline- to look forward to! :) Thanks so much for stopping by Hey Lou and for commenting! It’s so fun to know that someone took the time to read my blog and I appreciate what you’ve told me :) Have a great pixie!!! You should let me know when you get it done!!
December 2, 2013 at 10:10 AM
You make a great case for chopping off your hair. I’m not going to lie, the liberation part of it sounds appealing. Even though I have long hair, I am able to wash it/style it only once per week thanks to my dedication with “no ‘poo” (that’s “no shampoo” in case I haven’t told you). Obviously it is not the same as chopping it off, but it has made a HUGE difference in my life. So I can somewhat relate, right? :)
December 4, 2013 at 4:54 PM
I guess I never commented on this one! Bah. I agree 100%! My hair isn’t *quite* as short as yours, but I love it! It’s soooooo easy. You are seriously ROCKING that pixie. I’m jealous.
December 30, 2013 at 10:57 AM
I have to say that your post convinced me to get my hair in a pixie cut this past weekend. I’ve had it done before but was trying to grow it out …which got really frustrating…so off it came.
December 31, 2013 at 10:50 AM
Wow- that just makes my day. You should send a picture!!!!!! :) My email is in the “contact” tab. I hope you love it the second time around!
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February 1, 2014 at 6:37 AM
I love this! I totally agree..the only person who has to like your hair is you. It doesn’t hurt that you look amazing both ways :)
February 5, 2014 at 8:05 PM
Thank you so much, Chelsea!! It’s a nice realization to have…. it’s very freeing :)